From The Borderline's Perspective.

http://www.rcpsych.ac.uk/mentalhealthinfo/problems/personalitydisorders/personalitydisordersfacts.aspx 

Personality Disorder key facts. It is my mission to be behind a cure for personality disorders. Borderline or Emotionally Unstable is the most common whereas the other types if not treated can lead to criminal

behaviours and death. 

There is too much stigma around these disorders too. People with these disorders are misunderstood and are not "evil" like some archaic media people portray them as. The bad things happen as a result of not being treated and as a result of abuse or neglect usually in childhood. Not always. I have not studied these disorders I only speak from personal experience from suffering from Borderline aka emotionally unstable personality disorder. All my actions and previous actions make sense to me now. I am a different person now because of it. People with BPD tend to self harm in various ways be it with abusive men or over eating or starvation, self mutilation, drinking too much or other ways in order to cope with the void of emptiness inside us. Provocative behaviour such as flirtation can be done also not in a bid for attention but in order to feel acceptance or self worth. When someone leaves there might be tendencies to do anything to try to stop them from leaving. Or there might be times when you punish yourself for someone suddenly changing towards you. I remember when I used to starve and purge if a guy didn't want me back when I was in my early 20s. Hair pulling as a child can be a warning sign to developing some type of disorder too due to the severity of stress or anxiety the child is going through. 

Not being heard or taken seriously is a key factor too. This can spiral down into the sufferer feeling more isolated and alone and can spark off rage and intense emotions. Sometimes a simple "I'm listening to you and I'm taking on board everything you're saying" can be a huge help. 

I have been through everything of the above. I now notice my behaviour patterns and do not do these things anymore. Learning to self love and self soothe is the key. I hope this has brought some insight. 

Imagine me in 15 years when I am a psychiatrist... I'm good at being insightful now imagine what I will be then! 

There is hope. 

Best,

Emma.